Moving to Southampton - Saturday 19th September
This very scary and emotional day finally arose. The day I become more independent which has always been something that has terrified me as my family and I are extremely close and being alone/away from them isn't something I will get used to straight away. Trying to be strong really wasn't an option it was a very emotional day leaving all my loved ones behind even though I know I can visit anytime was still something that i struggled to do.
From this experience I learnt that this change to my life was going to be very difficult but worth it as i will now be able to study something I am passionate about and that being more independent will help me become more confident and outgoing which is something I have always struggled with. This day also helped me realise that I was going to have to become more independent one day and its more beneficial sooner than later even though it will be hard. From this day I now understand that you have to be responsible and make sure that you take care of yourself as your family won't always be there to make sure you have enough money or to make sure your on time for your lessons. Being away from my family is and will be the most difficult thing I have ever been through but will help me later on in life as i will be able to depend on myself and no-one else. This experience will be useful to my work and studies in university as i will become more independent and won't have as many distractions. I will become more organised and will hopefully get all of my work done in advance instead of leaving things to the last minute.
I feel that this event in my life has affected me in a way that means I will become more independent and grown up and although I may still feel as if I'm not ready to be away from my family for such a long period of time it will help me become a stronger person. This has affected me emotionally as leaving my family behind was a very hard thing to do and still is as even though I am only 2 hours away from them it will be difficult not seeing them as much as usual.
However as much as this has been a hard step to take in life I have been able to become a stronger person and am now able to make friends with people that I wouldn't usually speak to at home which will open me up to so many different cultures and beliefs which could inspire my work.
My first day at University - Monday 21st September
The first day of university was a very daunting time as I still don't feel old enough to be starting such a huge part of my life. Also being quite anxious with new places and situations this day was something I felt very nervous about as no-one wants to be disliked on the first day. Being quite a shy person I struggled to talk to new people but as I am now without the comfort of having family or friends from back home around me I needed to talk to people and make friends as we will be spending 3 years studying the same course together.
Something I learnt from this day is that I can come out of my comfort zone and can speak to people I don't really know because as everyone keeps saying, we are all in the same situation and we all need to try and make friends as being without your family means that friends are all you really have. This helped me see that when it comes to new situations there isn't a reason to be so scared or nervous as throughout your life you will have to meet new people and will have to experience not being liked by people or working with people you don't necessarily get along which is something you just have to get on with as nothing is going to go perfectly. This helped me understand that no-on will be intentionally unkind or rude as everyone wants to just get on with what they need to do and if you treat others how you would like to be treated then you will get the same back. This will be useful to me and my work as I will make friends that will be going through the same things as me and that I will be able to work alone and not feel like I'm unable to do it as confidence is something I've always lacked in.
I feel like this week has allowed me to gain friends and has made me feel more comfortable living in Southampton as at first I was struggling greatly. This induction week for my course has allowed to me to famliarise myself with the new area I now live in and has allowed me to make friends and learn things about them and what they are struggling with. This week has made me feel happier about being away from family and has made me feel more excited to start my course as it wasn't until a while ago that I realised that there are universities that do the course I am interested in. I enjoyed exploring the city and meeting lots of new lovely people on my course as its hard to put names to faces.
The Black and White City Project and Treasure Hunt
- Monday 21st/Tuesday 22nd September
These two activities were very useful as it helped
the groups become closer and also helped us all find our way around Southampton
better.
The Black and White City project was the first time
I went anywhere other than to the university which was a little daunting as
I don’t really know where many places are back home. However, this project was
helpful as I was able to feel more comfortable with my surroundings.
From this I
learnt that if I throw myself into new situations I am able to find my way
around as I have always been worried about being in new situations.
This helped
me see that living in Southampton wasn’t as scary and overwhelming as I thought
it would be as it’s a really nice area to be in even though its different from
home.
This
project helped me get to know the people and allowed to see what the people in
my group were like as I was only able to speak to them through Facebook so it
was nice to speak to them properly and to actually get to know people.
This will
help me in my work and in life as I have learnt that I am able to make friends
and am able to speak to anyone without shying away which is something I have
always struggled with. This will help me with my work as I will be able to ask
them for help and help anyone if they need it as if you treat others how you
would like to be treated they will treat you well and that way there wont be
anyone that I dislike. There may end up being people I don’t get on as well
with but that how life is and you will always have to just get on with things.The
treasure hunt on Tuesday was very helpful as it helped us learn where most
important places are in the university so that if I actually needed one of the
places I’d know where they are which was very useful.
I feel that
the projects and activities this week have been very useful in giving us all an
introduction in the course and giving us all the basic information we need and
also allowing us all to get to know each other and to become a team as we will
all be spending so much time together. This week of activities has helped me
feel happier away from home even though I would prefer to have gone to a
university closer to home but Southampton Solent University is the best place
for the type of course I want to do so it will be worth it in the long run.